Did They Just DARVO Me?
You went in with a legitimate concern. Three messages later, you're the one apologizing. You walked in as the person who was hurt and walked out as the person who caused hurt. What just happened?
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How It Works
DARVO is a three-step manipulation pattern: Deny the behavior, Attack the person who raised the concern, then Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender. It happens so fast you don't realize the flip until you're already apologizing. Our scanner identifies each step.
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Common Examples
“I never did that. But you know what YOU always do?”
“The fact that you would even accuse me of that says a lot about you.”
“I'm actually the one who's been hurt here, and you don't even see it.”
“How dare you bring this up after what you put me through.”
Paste what they said after you raised your concern. See if DARVO is operating.
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